I've been preoccupying myself with all things FARM as of late, pushing wedding thoughts to the far reaches of my mind to keep company forgotten pains and embarrassing moments. I DO love to think about it and plan and dream, but the event is so all encompassing: food, beverages, napkins, trash receptacles, chairs, dresses, favors. Egads! The details are enough to send you and your fiance to City Hall.
This date, this *o n e* DATE, (which we haven't picked yet) it's this big-deal, once-in-a (cross your fingers) lifetime party, right? You can spend over a year planning- even take out a loan to pay for it... but then what? What happens to post marital people post party?
Do they disappear to Long Island (or whatever) and start to populate their own little colony, zipping from soccer practice to Costco and back home to vacuum their microwaves? Isn't that what it seems like sometimes? I don't think I'm nervous about that, I don't like vacuuming OR microwaves... or Long Island.
When you sign up for "The Knot", they have suggestive links to their sister sites, "The Nest" and (more advanced) "The Bump"! Holy cow what ride am I on?! And I'm not NOT talking or thinking about weddings cause of the... inevitable afterwards.
That kind of stuff doesn't phase me, "the point system" is what I refer to it as. You know the school to school to school to job to marriage to kids to their school and school and school, etc. And each new level you get a point for. "The point system".
I don't know if it's growing up in New York City that's allowed me the freedom to ignore the point system, or if it's just me, but either way THAT'S not why I'm... NOT thinking about it.
ALSO- I go Upstate almost every weekend, so I come back with my mind racing with FARM thoughts. If I went to David's Bridal every weekend my mind would be racing with a whole different kind of nonsense. Nuptial nonsense.
I think this is why people get wedding planners. I am so excited to plan, but if I could just say "yes" or "no" for awhile, I'd like that too.